This is an excellent read for any American woman or feminine person considering dating an Israeli man. I saw a lot of my former self in there. If an American woman comes here, it is extremely important to be adaptable. Though it may seem crazy at first, many things about the culture here are much more natural and pro women. Maybe it’s not in the way most westerners are used to viewing feminism, but women have a lot of power here. You just have to consider your power more important than peace or convenience.
Men are not used to having much power in their relationships and home life. They have the power, to some degree, to accept or to decline a relationship, but the fact of being in a small country, especially one in which women rightfully withhold sex until their terms of safety, security, and stability are met, means that options are limited. A guy can’t just go out and replace you. If he screws up his chance at love, that will likely be it for decades. The time between finding one woman who actually wants to have sex with him and another will be filled mostly with masturbation, the occasional prostitute, and the rare and elusive “nympho” who is too crazy to have anything more with, or a kind older woman uses them once or twice a year for medicinal purposes.
Things being as they are, women are much more aware of their limited options than men, so once they secure a mate, there begins a sort of battle for dominance that the woman will ultimately win, even if she is only of moderate intelligence and strength. Pretty much, all you have to do is decide what kind of household you will have, and make him provide it…from guiding his education and training to where he will put his socks when he takes them off. With all the stress of being an Israeli man in the various cultural flavors we have here, they welcome the firm hand and knowing what is expected of them. The less confusion the better.
A woman being nice in ways that give him too much power at home confuses them. You become their mother who they take for granted rather than their wife who helps them improve their lot in life, boosts their status, and kickstarts another successful generation…and for some of them their mother is not that nice.
When in doubt, think of it in Star Trek terms. This is not Vulcan or Earth as you thought it was. It’s more like Klingon. When it doubt, think what would a Klingon woman do. Do that. Don’t take any crap. If he is being stupid, tell him he is being stupid. Say no in a normal tone once and only once. If you have to say no a second time, raise your voice. If you have to say it a third time, some item near you should break.
This is Israeli women. You run your home like a tight Klingon ship. Otherwise, they think you are incompetent and therefore untrustworthy and weak willed and therefore of lesser quality.
It may sound hard, but the blogger’s ex boyfriend probably felt that he was settling and that she was desperate. She took treatment from him that no one else would. He found her slave-like and therefore unworthy. An Israeli woman does what she likes, does her hair and nails as she likes, and takes or doesn’t take pictures as she likes, and if he doesn’t like it he can fuck off…and she will tell him that to his face.
If you are going to survive here with your sanity intact, you have to be a little crazy…but in truth, this is not crazy. This is woman. We are supposed to be emotional and fierce in keeping our homes clean and organized, and our men free of whimsy and stupidity. If a man can’t handle it, then he needs to go home to his mommy.