…it is estimated that 50% of gay husbands hide their homosexuality from their wives and don’t reach this place of honesty on their own. In many cases, it is the wife, who after suspecting that something is wrong, must confront the gay husband with the evidence, and only then can honesty be achieved.
But if you’re wondering, “Is my man gay,” it might be helpful to know that there are signs to look for, according to Kaye. Kaye has developed the Official Gay Husband Checklist to help women know if their husbands are gay.
#2 on the checklist is:
He is turned-off by normal sexual activity and accuses you of being oversexed, aggressive, or a nymphomaniac when you have normal sexual needs.
…and #6 is:
He tells you that he wants you to use sex toys on him because he needs his prostate stimulated or because he likes kinky sex.
Again, it’s not just me. Pegging won’t turn your husband or boyfriend Gay, but obsession or over emphasis on it may indicate that he is Gay or Bisexual and trying to fool you or himself.
Sometimes abusive behavior comes out of too long of living a lie, or a feeling of necessity to maintain a facade. Gay and Bisexual men need to accept themselves, even if they are not ready to fully come out of the closet, so that they don’t abuse women in an attempt to get their sexual needs met.