Thank you for this. This situation actually did send me back to the bars. Online dating really stopped being worth the worries. I think the being out and about is a sort of a filter. Passive guys take advantage of the lack of live competition online. All alone, with no one else around, they have your full attention, and can pretend to be whatever they like, but around other guys, they have to compete for attention, just like us. If we’re not feminine and attractive enough for a dude’s tastes, we get no action. If they’re not masculine enough for our individual tastes, they should get none either.