Men and women are different. One can’t really compare a vagina to an anus anyway. I would say however, that a female who enjoys penetration with an optimally stimulating phallus is oriented differently from a female who absolutely has to have a phallus that is shaped and textured like a penis, which is less optimal…especially if said penis shaped object must be strapped onto the body of a person in order for her to feel good about it.

I personally won’t wear a strap-on with a woman either. I don’t want to be pressured to play a straight man either.