The Pegging Circle Jerk on Reddit

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Satanic Ritual Play

A little reminder who you’re calling a prude.

Well, I noticed that my pegging article was receiving a lot of traffic, and decided to see where it was coming from.  Mostly, it’s from Reddit.  It inspired a circle jerk of very confused illiterates who can’t tell the difference between someone being pro Gay just against being the beaten down beard for a self hating closet dweller, and someone being a homophobe.

It was a bit difficult for them to use the usual insults since I’m not male.  So when all else failed, they fell back on what’s usually a favorite of the conservative crowd: that I need some good sex.

To that, all I have to say is: that was exactly my point.

I need sex.  You know, a penis in my vagina…or hey, my mouth and maybe my ass, between my tits, and if you’re adventurous, we can go for armpits too.  I prefer a guy who likes to fuck, not to be fucked…and most women who are functioning as women prefer the same.

Why I’m banging a drum about it is because since the 1960’s, women like me have been shamed by other women for being women and not more like men.  Wearing a dick is just the final straw.  This is where I say I don’t give a fuck what the trends are, or how healthy some psychologists in the closet say it is, I am not going there ever again.

I am not talking out of my ass about this.  I’ve been a Domme, and am still relatively dominant in character.  I’ve done pegging and fisting at a level that would make some old sock-butts (that’s the old school term for a dude with anal prolapse…I think they’re calling it a “rose” these days) wince.

This is not someone standing outside the kink community condemning.  This is someone inside the kink community saying, “Been there, done that, it’s not for me, and I’m no longer going to take the accusations that something is wrong with me for having my own needs.”

We clear?

We clear?

So you can all suck on at least three of my ex boyfriends’ well used giant dildoes.  The dildo became more important than me because I was never that important to them.  All I was to them was a dildo holder, and this is the case for most guys into pegging.  They could give two shits about the needs of the woman, and the whole sexual aspect of the relationship revolves around them getting off with that dead tube of rubber.

Then you find out they’ve been getting screwed and/or fisted or dildoed by a dude.

I would think I was fortunate not to contract an STD in all this time, but the sad truth is that peggys don’t usually fuck women enough to give us a disease.

Again (and this is an again since I did account for exceptions) some few out there like to fuck more than to be fucked, but I haven’t seen any online or offline.  I have never seen the topic come up of a guy feeling like there might be something wrong if their wife lost interest in having regular sex with them because of pegging.  They’re happy when this happened…then they’re surprised when their wife or girlfriend cheats on them or leaves them for a Dom.

We deal with this issue in the BDSM community all the time.  The husband goes sub, the wife goes elsewhere to get her needs for a Dominant man (or woman) met.  This has happened so many times that many male subs and bottom bisexuals who are in relationships with women “outsource” because they don’t want the relationship with the wife to change.

If saying this makes me a homophobe, so be it.  I’m used to being the villain, having been African American all my life, and having been Domme since back before it was fashionable…when they were telling us that we were mentally ill and criminal.

You newbies think you can have it all.  You can’t.  Life requires that we make some hard choices.  Make them or they’ll make you.

I realized at some point that my personal tastes didn’t match up with the main stream of BDSM.  For awhile after that realization, I went along mainly because I didn’t feel like I had much of a choice, and because I question everything *especially* myself.  I thought maybe I was harboring some anti kink self hatred, and needed to get over it and push through it.  At some point though, I understood that I was just standing in the wrong flavor of kink.

I don’t fault or condemn anybody for their actual desires, but I do encourage people to be real with themselves.  I take responsibility for my part of the dysfunction of relationships in which I was secretly unhappy with my partners because it became all about their needs and mine weren’t allowed to be.  I held onto those relationships despite my being unhappy because I did not see that I had a choice, and that my being unhappy with it was not wrong.  It is not wrong to be Primal.  I don’t need to hold a whip to be sufficiently open minded.

This is not about what you do, but why you do it…and there is a point though, where a what meets a why, and folks need to be honest.

Oh, and another thing the dumbasses missed while they were too busy choking on their own smug, is that Arden Keren, the spiritual counselor who coined the term NMS (for “new masculinity” syndrome) is very openly Gay.   A simple Google search would have cleared that up.

He noticed that the world of men was starting to look like an episode of Southpark on metrosexuals, and sought to find out why.  Then he explained it to me, and I merely translated most of it to English.

If pegging is a trend, and straight men are doing it to fit in, or to “save his marriage” or “experience womanhood” (yeah right, like you’re going to get a period and start having pregnancy worries because of a magic rubber dong, poser), or to feel more feminist, then it is a case of, “I’m so metrosexual and progressive I take a dick in my ass…but a woman is wearing the dick, so it doesn’t make me Gay.”  No, it doesn’t make you Gay, but it does make you a tool…which is gay with a small g.

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