[m] You are not being consequent. What is the difference between small dildo, and big dildo? The size of dildo depends on ones anatomy, and sensibility of nerves, etc. The core point of pegging is that it is a woman penetrating man, not man just being penetrated. And what is sexy in woman with strap-on is the dichotomy, the fact that she is a woman is crucial. She does not mimic man. It is also a question of aesthetics. She is not better wearing a cock, she is just different. I do love her body and she is the most beautiful being I have ever known, I would not change in her even one thing. In moments when we peg a we need to have a toy to be able to do that obviously, and we both prefer her to make love to me wearing something handsomely looking. And in my opinion the fact that I can say that a dildo looks nice doesn’t mean I am gay any more than her commenting nice boobs on an actress makes her lesbian. As she said the cock is an element of a body (a tool) not a core of masculinity. In my view the cock when becomes part of Her does not affect her womanhood and starts being sexy. Whereas if it would be attached to a man it would be asexual for me. I can possibly say if the actor on a photo looks OK, but there is nothing arousing, and for me it is complete mystery what she means when saying my ass is sexy. I think the most asexual thing on the planet is a man’s ass. Many people overestimate the meaning of cock in terms of masculinity I guess.
As for the reasons we do peg, we wrote about it earlier in other comments.
I am really sorry you had bad experiences with your partners. But by generalizing you are hurting other people. There are various characters, but the fact you had 3 such accidents, maybe means you were making a mistake when choosing them? People tend to repeat them over and over. It is obvious there are bisexuals and closet gays among fans of pegging, but they are I guess the same percentage as in other types of sex. I imagine it is easier to find even a discreet male partner than a woman who likes pegging. Besides bisexuals I would imagine like sex with both males and females. So sex with woman would not really do the trick I guess.
The reasons for doing one thing can be so multiple as there are people doing it. For example for us a turn on in pegging is only between us. I would not look at any other woman in this way. It is also the most intimate thing we have never shared and done with anyone else before. It is an expression of my trust to her, when I feel her inside I am so much her own. And it is incredible that I can just for once be more focused on my emotions when making love instead focusing on giving her pleasure. The knowledge she loves to see how good she gives it to me is also great. Other people have probably different reasons.
Would “regular” anal sex still be a homosexual kind-of act? Also it is said not even half of gay community is into anal sex.
Finally it is really all about happiness, if both people are comfortable and find pleasure in doing something than they have reached their goal. I learned in life there is no such thing as regular, normal sex, or the definition is so wide it is hard to write it down.