Jewish women are dating and marrying Arab men more often because Jewish men here have basically turned feminist, pseudo-feminist slacker, or MGTOW. It is very difficult to find a Jewish man who actually wants and is prepared to have a traditional family unless he is extremely religious.
The religious people here, except a few relatively moderate groups in the north of Israel, raise men in a way that they are not competitive with others as far as masculinity. So very few nonreligious or less religious women would sign up for orthodox life.
All this protesting against intermarriage is a cover for the weakness of Israeli society, and its failure to make enough men and women who are suitable for marriage.
So, the suitable find each other here by hook or by crook, or move abroad, or learn to live alone. To just be a healthy Jewish couple here, one has to work against the system and the society. To be an interethnic couple is even harder.
Hundreds of protesters arrived to demonstrate Sunday night against the mixed marriage of a young couple from Yafo: Moral, a 23-year-old Jewish woman recently converted to Islam by her groom, Mahmoud Mansour, a 26-year-old Muslim Arab.
At the protest led by the Lehava group which fights assimilation in Israel, former MK Dr. Michael Ben-Ari addressed the crowd, saying “Moral, it won’t help you. They always will remind you that you’re Jewish and where you came from. The children you give birth to will never be treated as equal to them.”
As noted by Ben-Ari, in nearly all cases of mixed marriages with Arabs in Israel, the Jewish partner is the bride. It is a well documented phenomenon that such wives often suffer abuse from their Arab husbands, and many require help to escape.
Ben-Ari noted that former Prime Minister Golda Meir, “a prime minister of the Labor party, a representative of the left, etc. – when she spoke about assimilation she said…’whoever marries and assimilates joins the six million (Jews murdered in the Holocaust). She saw in what’s happening here a continuation of the work of (Nazi Leader Adolf) Hitler.”
The non Jew who marries a Jew, or is willing to, is not viewed as a tolerant person who lets love rule, and casts aside racism to embrace someone of a different culture. We are viewed as little Hitlers attempting to destroy the Jewish people.
So often, even the Jews we are dating or marrying, come to treat us as such sooner or later. We get no credit for dating the people who are blamed for everything from the financial and cultural crisis in the U.S. to the disappearance of Christian children in eastern Europe. Our ability to see through the hype, lies, or even real group politics, to the individual we are in love with, is meaningless.
It is a weird position for me, an African American woman, to be in…to be regarded as the Devil stealing men of a historically oppressed and hated ethnicity. Jews in Israel, much like African Americans in the U.S. behave as if they are uniquely put-upon, and the only people in the world who have experienced extreme racism. It would be baffling if you didn’t know more about human nature.
Inferiority complex is a very ugly thing, that ends up making ugly, unsuitable people who can’t be happy suitable people manage to find each other against whatever odds.
Like a scantily clad, stoned woman walking through a bad neighborhood at night isn’t thinking about the stupidity of her behavior, ethnonationalists who don’t successfully navigate Phase 1 (creating a strong society), don’t blame the weakness in their culture for a trend of out-breeding. They externalize the blame. They create unsustainable cultures that people want to escape from, and create a subculture of outcasts with nowhere to go but the “enemy” or at least the “other”…but the “other” is always to blame.
The dating and mating market is a first come, first serve situation. If a Jewish man had found this woman first, been a man for her, not screwed her over, and put a bun in her oven, it is unlikely that she would be marrying an Arab man…and I assure you that were she not at least halfway decent, loyal, and reasonably chaste, an Arab man would probably not be marrying her.
What is chapping people’s hides about this is that the Jews who are sensitive to the out-marriage situation understand that they have lost a good woman who Jewish men took for granted and failed to wife up. That’s the part that stings about this. They’ll never admit it, and will call her a whore, but that’s what it is.
20 Arab guys could shag her, and few would care…but one is marrying her. Arab guys’ standards are pretty high in that regard, especially since they have their own ethnonationalists to deal with. She’s risking being a social outcast, but he’s risking death.
So not only is the Arab man who marries a Jewish woman winning her from being more of a man despite being surrounded by an overly feminist mainstream, but he’s being more of a man by marrying out despite being surrounded by a fatally xenophobic subculture. This is a test most Jewish men here fail even with non Arab “outsiders” who grew up here and sometimes served in the same army.
There are some exceptions, but they are rare. To Jews, as much as to Arabs, the “other” is the enemy, no matter what their personal story is. It doesn’t matter that the person may have their own cultural barriers to cross in order to love and commit to someone who isn’t from their own ethnicity. They are viewed as agents of destruction.The real agents of destruction are within.
If Jewish people treated each other better…If Arab people treated each other better…both out-dating and out-marriage would me much more rare. When it did happen, it wouldn’t lead to people feeling outcast, just needing to make sound choices about belonging and identity.
As things are, both Jews and Arabs think they should have the right to treat their own people like crap and still keep them attached. Life doesn’t work that way.
A strong race is born of a strong culture. Not the other way around. Cannibalistic cultures that eat their own perish.