An alpha male is not just a leader. An alpha male is a father or father-er. One doesn't become alpha by shagging the most women or shagging hot women or being the biggest jerk. One becomes alpha by raising children and providing for and protecting them, as well as teaching them to survive, thus earning their respect. No pack, no alpha. This term is horribly misused, I guess because it sounds cool...but truly it means "Beloved father." That's it.