Well, it is true. When a man loves you, he gets what I like to call “primal monkey panic” and doesn’t want to leave things to chance.

I think the reason I figured it out was because normally I don’t and never did inspire protective or positive possessive instincts in most men. So when a guy does feel strongly for me in the right way, it stands out. I have some good fortune to have had those experiences because otherwise, I’d think it was normal for guys to be either fearful, hostile-intimidated, or “amazon” fetishistic.

The fetishists like Vegeta and Mr J. don’t really see us as women, and that’s exactly what they like about it. It lets them off the hook, and they don’t feel any personal responsibility for hurting us. They expect and want us to behave like men would in the same situation, and get confused and sometimes angry when we don’t. The anger also comes from the awareness that our social value as mates is low, and they feel entitled to use us indiscriminately.

Guys like Shai, Steve, Slick, Cuz, and Fender on the other hand, are not intimidated by a strong woman at all. They view me as a fragile flower…just with very sharp thorns. They see the thorns and are like, “Meh…I’ve conquered worse.”

If only I could find one like them, but without the issues or a wife. That’s the other side of the alpha coin…that they attract hoes like a beautiful woman attracts knuckleheads.