Jamila, it’s not about shoulds but do’s. I’d be kind of freaked out if a guy got up and left right after the first “hit” or overall encounter. It didn’t occur to me that this is how guys, especially alpha types with nothing to lose from chilling for a bit, normally behaved, even in prior subgenerations.

I mean, I’d heard about it from other people, but we’re talking people I’ve counselled because of their intimacy issues. I didn’t see it outside of pathology.

Even with as many male friends as I have, it was bragworthy for the woman to do it again and then make him breakfast all wobbly legged. Nobody bragged about flying out of there post haste. If they did give a shag report that ended like that, it’s because he found a knife under her pillow or his dick was burning.

SD, I understand, and I don’t take Roissy’s word as gospel or something. It’s just added to my worldview as another shade of human perspective. I read that article by the way…quite interesting. It explains a lot about the power of specific sex appeal as opposed to generalized standards.

Anoukange, the problem that I and probably Jamila are having is that well…What is clingier than sex?

I mean…sex, Anoukange. Two human beings can’t get any closer without being Siamese twins. How is it possible for a guy to be too clingy after ****SEX****?

Apparently, I’m spoiled because even though I accept the reality that many probably do think that cuddliness after sex is beta or something, it just doesn’t compute because it’s outside my experience. It’s been my experience that the more secure a guy is, the more he wants to tie me down at least at the moment.

What would make me uncomfortable is that if we didn’t have an explicitly defined relationship, any kind of territorial body language seemed overly entitled. I was keeping “hand” by not allowing them to think they had me.

Still, I eventually caved in because I was just being silly. I love to smell a man’s sweat after I’ve given him a workout.

Seriously, if a guy just got up and left, I would cry, and that would be the last time he would have the opportunity to make me cry.