Anoukange, it wasn’t meant to be an insult, I apologize if you took it that way.

IronWynch,

I do agree that a number of things that Roissy says are quite accurate, and more “real” than the usual perspective we are given. But he, and his commenters, are rather extreme in their views. Advice and opinions from extremists usually need to be scaled back some in order to get at what’s closest to the truth.

As for the casual sex arena, I’ve more experience than the majority of Roissy’s commenters, both male and female. But I am aware that my approach and the men I sleep with are representative of a skewed population sample: they are people -I- find desirable, people that tend to be within a certain age group, certain social and economic demographic, with my particular sexual desires filtering through those that pass my inital screen. My reactions and their reactions are attributed, in part, to ideas that Roissy and others put out there, but also in part to our own experiences and ideas as we place them on our social/sexual interactions. I would never deem to come down as Roissy and Co. do and tell others that their sexual experiences (or drive towards sexual experiences) fall within this social/sexual bellcurve and there are only X, Y, Z reasons that caused it to succeed or fail.

I hope your altered approach to relationships and casual bedpartners succeeds as you predict. It will be good to read about your results… and your happiness.