Thanks for taking the time to go into it further Nicole. And I appreciate both you and Poetry explaining yourselves in more detail. I also get where you’re coming from. I behave and need things to be much different when I know the guy is quality ahead of time (as in: waited to have sex and built intimacy and trust therefore snuggling was absolutely expected) but in fast sex (I’ve had two happen quickly), there are other rules. Those are more fast and hot sex with the mystery of the night and affair becoming lost if the guy suddenly turns too soft on me and smothers me. I like guys who show their vulnerability slowly, I like to drag it out and savor it. So, having the guy leave in a non-cruel way but NOT spend the night plays well on me. I like my men macho. Cuddling is a favorite pastime of mine with the right guy.