Scratching my head, I wish to speak on behalf of the local males, as one. I think you got something basically wrong about Israeli men, because of two parameters:

1) your personal status.
2) the tools you use to date.

1) It is not very common in Israel for women who date to live with their ex. A result is that most men would assume you are seeking sex and not a real relationship. I think it might be easier for you, had you tried dating people in similar situation. The problem about this suggestion, is that most persons in this situation are still married, and having read only some of your posts, I don’t know but get the feeling that you don’t like dating married men, regardless the state of their marriage. Bringing us back to square one: as long as you live with your ex, you are a sui generis, and in all societies, the different are interpreted according to known patters. If you seek to be interpreted differently, all you need to do is be clearer about what you seek.

2) which brings us to the second aspect of your dating – using atraf (which is where I got from to your blog). Atraf is a sex-dating site. Every single person on this website is there mainly for sex. And this assumption has haunted many of my friends when they discovered they like someone they met on Atraf more than they expected, because, after all, if you meet on atraf, you can’t really expect anything serious.

I believe that if you tried dating using a “serious” dating site, and presented your intentions clearly, you would discover a whole different class of Israeli guys, known as the normal ones…