With all due respect, I completely disagree. Men enjoy pegging because of the intense pleasure that prostate stimulation can offer – equal to G-spot stimulation in women. In other words – intense pleasure is what drives them primarily.

The area of your body that you enjoy having stimulated has absolutely no bearing on the gender you prefer to do the stimulating. If they were connected, then a lesbian who does her lesbian partner with a strap-on – they must both be straight, right?

The misconception that men who enjoy anal stimulation are gay is quite prevalent and also quite incorrect. A recent study showed that only 36% of gay men even have anal sex.

(Here is the study: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2011/10/18/george-mason-gay-sex-study_n_1017958.html#s417474&title=Anal_Sex_Not )

While it is true that some men who enjoy pegging are bisexual, it is not true that any man who enjoys pegging suddenly develops a love of hairy muscular bodies and is just pretending that he likes women.

While I agree with you that it can be a disaster, I can also testify that many many couples who have tried pegging have written me to tell me how it deepened the intimacy they share and brought an entirely new energy and dimension to relationships that had become stale over the years.

Assigning sexual activities a gender can be a slippery slope. Is cunnilingus only for lesbians? Is fellatio only for gay men? And what gender get assigned to playing with a phallic-shaped sex toy? Sexual activities are just that – sexual activities. Orientation is a choice.

While pegging is not for all couples, it is a perfectly wonderful addition to their sexual treasure chest of choices.