@Ruby, a requirement means there is an “or else”.

Do you not see how that is emotional abuse and coercion for a partner who is already in a relationship, and repellant to someone who isn’t?

Is everyone required, not just to accept the fact of, but to be into what you are into?

Is it right or healthy, for instance, for a man to tell a woman that oral sex is required in his relationships or else…?

Is a woman who is not into oral sex required to do it to please her man or else?

If there’s an or else with any teeth, it is emotional abuse and manipulation, and nobody, male or female, has to go with it. Just because the apparent victims are male in the case of pegging, doesn’t make it less abuse for him, if he is being coerced…and just because the man thinks receiving a penis is victimizing, and plays the role of a victim in the roleplay, does not make it any less abusive of her if there is an or else.

You’re the one being narrow minded, and not accepting that your rights end where another person’s rights begin.

I get that you are very much invested in promoting pegging as something 100% positive, but just like any other kind of sex, there’s a right way and a wrong way, and people who are an aren’t going to be into that. The right way is to find someone who is into what you’re into, and do whatever you do together. It is wrong to find someone who is not into that and then pressure them to do it, and worse pretend that the person being pressured and possibly emotionally and/or physically abused is the one who is wrong for not being “open minded” enough.

People who decide to bring something into their marital/commitment bed should have full information about the possible consequences. As a kinky person myself, I decided to address this issue…for the same reason some people run safe houses.

Host a few men and women who needed to get away from partners masking abuse through kink and using abuse to pressure partners into more extreme activity, and you’ll see my side of things a little more clearly.

I’d also like you to bear in mind that you are on someone’s personal blog, trying to shout down their personal opinion about the nastiness of emotional abuse, and cultural pressure to engage in sex acts that are personally distasteful.