@Chris, I don’t have a degree in the social sciences, but it is a side interest of mine since high school. Thank you for the compliment, though a lot of credit for this topic has to go to my Gay male friends who are sick of metrosexualism. There are a whole lot of issues they have to deal with because of this, not the least of which is young men who ought to be coming out of the closet or at least reducing harm in the closet, dating and getting married to women who they then try to coerce into becoming virtual men. Eventually, the guy often comes out or makes some other reason to check out, but he leaves behind an emotionally scarred woman who doesn’t trust men anymore, and children who are confused, especially if one or more of them is Gay. What kind of example was their dad?

A lot of damage is done when people don’t address their sexuality honestly. When things get twisted, it’s the most vulnerable who end up paying the price because aside of being socially dependent, most people have a hard time with “virtue when they have a shot at vice”. The kids end up losing the most when the parents are weak and dishonest.

“My behavior is not all of who I am,” is not the same as, “My behavior has nothing to do with who I am.” The knuckle-heads with a problem with my post think there is no difference between the two. Even if one’s behavior isn’t all of who they are, who they are had everything to do with why they engage in certain behavior, that wasn’t mandated by circumstances.

…but you notice how pervasive the behavioral disconnect way of thinking is, just in some of the responses. They get to freak out about a woman making a personal choice not to allow certain kinds of men and activities into her life or bed, and explaining why, but they’re not bigots or emotionally abusive. Right…