Thank you for posting about your situation. I have been where you are, and it is pretty devastating. You should prepare yourself, either for the end, or for going your separate ways sexually. For most families, the latter is harder, but better in the long run. Friendship seems like the consolation prize when you’re young, but as you get older, you see that it is extremely valuable. If you are otherwise emotionally very close, he’s still family even though you have incompatible sexual orientations.

A Brazilian guy explained it to me once. Where he’s from, people tend to be very realistic, and not break a marriage unless the two really can’t live together. He says it like this: every marriage becomes celibate eventually. Every. Marriage. Either someone gets old, someone gets sick, or someone gets bored. If everyone either left or suffered in silence when the inevitable happened, marriage wouldn’t exist because nobody would sign up for it. When stuff happens, a couple should talk, and open the marriage within certain limits. They should consider that there’s a whole world out there full of dick willing to give it to whoever asks, but love is hard to find.

So if you love him, he loves you, and you get along, try taking the pressure off. If that resolves the stress, then there you go. Just determine that you’re not going to jet as soon as some new guy comes along talking a good game. Men and women are still different, and he should still be your protector, and not let other guys harm you. You should do the same for him and not allow trash in your home. The kids should never know what is going on until they are at least 20.

If you just can’t live together, and get no comfort from each other, then you probably married the wrong guy anyway. This is someone you would have no use for if his dick stopped working for some reason.

Just think before you jump either way. Blessings and good luck. Let me know what happened.