I found this article as a trans woman trying to find a way to get men to be more assertive with me. Before transition when I slept only with women, this whole idea seemed rudimentary to me when consent was established. As equals I would generally take charge with containment and so long as it was well received it enhanced sex.

Simple I started sleeping with guys I see what cis women have complained about this whole time. Most men seem to be wishy-washy and not in for doing the work, its really unattractive.

Because of my previous experiences I nearly feel like it’s up to me to take that role but it then makes the role of the man redundant. The reason I don’t is because it’s inherently emasculating so I just end experiences so I can go have fun with a less wet fish.

Even now with women I prefer a Dominant primal role simply because they seem to want to be cared for and I’m more than happy to be the more assertive one. Pillow Princesses however, are another story, there’s nothing to contain so there is no ‘prize’ as a man might say it.

Appreciate the article 🙂