I don’t know, Vincent. I’ve seen some things…

Opportunism is an excuse when it’s only about the sex (which it never really is because there’s at least some ego validation in there). In my case, they do actually pursue and game, and then keep the thing going for over a year. I’m sure if I was willing to take being treated like the “fallback 5”, those would have lasted longer.

So I’m looking in the mirror baffled as to why these men who can obviously do “better” keep trying to get into not only my pants, but my good graces. The only reason I can think of, which is hard but necessary for me to admit, is that they really hate themselves.

They’re chasing me because they feel lowly or ugly inside, and feel that I’m a compatible companion for the horrible monster they feel that they really are underneat the handsome, accomplished exterior.

I don’t make them feel insecure, and I treat them like men, for better or worse. In these screwed up times, I may well be the only woman in their lives who does.

So what’s driving them is some kind of self loathing, and this is one of the main reasons they can’t seem to see who I am. It’s all about their perception of themselves.

In a truly western culture, whatever prejudices they may have on sight would dissipate as soon as I opened my mouth. Here, where it’s overly tribalist, it doesn’t matter what I say or do aside of becoming incredibly rich, and I’ve heard horror stories even from wealthy Black people here.

Fender’s sister catches plenty of hell even though she is gorgeous. She’s just Black gorgeous, so guys’ wishful thinking drives them to treating her like a default whore even though she’s Jewish. She’s Libyan, so she doesn’t look Ethiopian even though she’s dark, so they see her and thing “migrant worker”.

She ended up moving to the U.K. because that is probably her only chance to find a guy who will take her seriously.

In western cultures though, the “ugly” are like the ethnically different here. So I think it’s just that guys have this idea in their heads of who is the underclass, and on them they dump all their nastiness and psychosexual hatred.

They were trained to do this by a feminized culture that overrides the male selection criteria with a female pecking order. Those lower on the pecking order are not just considered less fantasy-ideal, but less valuable as human beings.

Maleness is also under attack in western culture, so it’s natural that many men, feeling self loathing, would feel most comfortable using women they view as loathesome.

I would really like to believe that looks don’t matter, and the dating/shagging of “ugly” women proves it, but the fact that less ideal women who don’t have an overabundance of defects are being called ugly nowadays, as opposed to plain as they were in the past, tells me that there’s some hating going on.

These men like to roll in what they perceive as dirt. So men who cheat with ugly women are basically getting one trophy wife/girlfriend to represent their alpha cred, and another woman to exercise their dark side with.

It’s as old as civilization. Men have been marrying in their social class and shagging below their social class for aeons. Nothing has changed except who is viewed as low caste.