…and I don’t believe everything people in white coats tell me. If you are “alternative”, you would do well to avoid that particular trap.

For some time, the fetish communities were somewhat protected from some of the popular dysfunctions because of the sheer effort it took to get there. Nowadays, everybody thinks they’re cut out for whatever they see on the screen, and it just isn’t so. So we get abusers posing as Doms and slackers posing as subs, etc.

Be careful before you get too excited about a former taboo becoming the new “thing”.