It is not enough now to merely be a heterosexual and tolerate those who have different orientations. Now, to truly combat misogyny in the eyes of folks like Schwyzer, one must be fully open to participating in homosexual acts.
If you are a heterosexual male uncomfortable with the idea of partaking in a homosexual act, you are…
a) promoting the perpetuation of a misogynistic culture
b) showing that you’re not comfortable in your own sexuality
c) promoting homophobia (which is now, apparently, also analogous to woman-hate)
Going by this logic, any male who is not open to participating in a homosexual act is now presumed to be insecure and, therefore, deemed secretly gay or bi.
Males who are open to those acts are deemed tolerant and worthy combatants against sexism and misogyny. Their open performance of these acts also essentially renders them gay or bi, just like their less “open” peers.
Meanwhile, the actual homosexuals (gay and bi men) are still as they always were.
Where does this logic leave us, then?
EVERY MAN IS GAY OR BI.
via The Rise Of “Straight Shaming”.
So it’s not just me. I’m catching a little hell from a Domme about my pegging article, who thinks I’m trying to say that there’s something morally wrong with pegging. What I’m actually saying is that I, as a mostly heterosexual woman, do not like it, nor do most. I prefer dominant men who don’t need me to play around with their poop, and if at all, at least not at a level above a finger or two for prostate stimulation.
Pegging is something else entirely, and involves the use of what is essentially a prosthetic penis, or a large penis thrusting in and out of the anus, as opposed to wiggling to reach a target. If an amputee’s partner prefers they wear their prosthetic arm or leg during sex, it is clear their partner wishes they had their limb still attached. If a woman’s partner prefers she be wearing a prosthetic penis, then it’s just as clear that he wishes she has a penis. Otherwise, she would just be using her fingers or a small specially angled dildo in her hand.
If the body matters, and the body needs to be a male body, then it matters that the body isn’t actually male…and sooner or later, that is going to matter enough that her being female with a prosthetic won’t be enough.
Whether or not the guy himself is homosexual, the activity certainly is meant to mimic homosexual sex.
Update May 2022: This is yet another article I wrote before my clean break with the “white” masking as multikult manosphere. When I discuss men and manhood now, I center African/Black and sometimes Jewish manhood when appropriate, and own my bias in the context of egalitarian Maaternal Womanism.
I now understand that “straight shaming” is not really as big a thing in the west as some butt hurt “white” conservative men make it out to be. There are only a few people promoting the idea of all men/masculine people needing to experience, much less enjoy anal penetration, and none of them are what one could call academically credible. They were just overhyped by those so used to privilege that any and all criticism of their status or the myths it’s based on is the end of the world to them. So like African American “hoteps” using historical oppression to justify their nonsense, some of the feminist and LGBTQ+ version express reactive xenophobia. A reaction to something is not and is usually not as bad as the something unless or until it can gain enough political and social pull to be a real threat. So the “straight shaming” thing is kind of like the “skinny shaming” thing. Yes, it can be individually damaging, but it is not a widespread or deep enough issue that it requires more than therapy for the few individuals traumatized by the scarce few who would inflict it.
Like my understanding that my ex boyfriend was gaslighting was all it took for me to put the idea that he might be right completely to rest. I do not see anyone I would take seriously, telling me I was wrong for not attempting to save that relationship, and should have accepted one-way sex forever.
The Medea mother issue is a much bigger one than this. However, I don’t see most of supposed men’s rights activists complaining about this or other real and pervasive problems arising from fractured femininity. Elvind Berge is the only one I’ve ever seen really look into this and how the damage done to femininity by the overly rigid patriarchy (aided by women in a faustian deal) has affected men and manhood. He just wants a piece of the freedom too, and I think one day someone will approach masculine sexuality honestly. He’s ahead of his time in this. Even where we disagree, it is at least obvious that he is looking at all the facts.
So “straight shaming” is bad, but it’s not as widespread as misogyny, homophobia, and transphobia. It is also seldom, if ever, fatal to the one on the receiving end. So it needs to be prioritized accordingly.