Again, generalizing, here are some indicators of where you stand with a Primal person.
When a Primal person says, “I would have your babies,” it means that you are pretty, strong, and have some personality features they like. It does not mean that they actually want to have your babies today. It is just a compliment.
“What is that bitch’s/bastard’s name?” means they feel protective of you. If it is said with a sort of a laugh, then you are being offered protection. If it is said with a serious tone, this question is best answered by you with some instructions as to whether or not you would approve of protection. They will likely follow your lead. If it is growled then no matter how you answer, this person will be found and dealt with.
But when you are under protection, this means your relationship is serious or about to be.
“I am going to _____. Do you need anything from there?” This is a combination nurturer/provider situation. They want to start doing things for you in the course of their activities because they are thinking about your needs. The next step is, “I see you need _____. Let me take care of that.” Then at some point things you needed may start simply appearing.
Aside of the intense sex, if a Primal person loves you more than in a general humanitarian way, they will want to actually do actions and practical things to express their affection. Unless or until they do or offer to do something practical, you are basically still in the Primal “friend zone”. Actually, since we tend to consider friendship a serious relationship, it’s more like the “sexually interesting acquaintance zone”.
About the friendship thing, most of us at least that I know of, will have sex with our friends. We just don’t claim them as more than friends. It is not like vanilla people’s “friends with benefits”, but not like their being in our tribe. They are just fun to hang out with and safe to have sex with. Sometimes these relationships take on a romantic tone, but not always, and we tend to be cool with that. One of the reasons we’re cool with it is because it’s hard to not know when you don’t have a very intense chemistry with someone, even if the person makes you feel nurtured and loved in a humanitarian way.
We get that not everyone is a match, and even if we are, sometimes there are other concerns. I’ve had relationships that were quite intense and with people with whom, were it a different time and place, we could be together long term, but there were things they needed to do in life without me. In some cases, in a way I was their training partner or teacher-girlfriend, and in some cases I was a reminder of what sex with someone who cares for you is like. Those were, and some still are, serious relationships, albeit sexually temporary.
It is very common for non sexual or not-directly-sexual friendships to intensify to a level of Primal friendship. The people involved either graduate to a level of being very physically comfortable with one another, or don’t lose the physicality they were comfortable with in childhood just because they become adults. This is not the same thing as bullying where a so-called friend takes non consensual liberties with others or uses physical intimidation. Things work both ways, and friends will both give and receive what looks like aggression, and at times perhaps even punish one another physically. In some cultures where no one would dream of hitting a child, adults will have a sort of physical discipline with one another. In Israel, this is standard.
One good truth that Diva told me is that all relationships end. No matter what kind of relationship it is, it ends someday. Sometimes it is with death, but sometimes it’s just life.
Primal people, we tend to take life and sexuality by the balls, and we learn when to jiggle gently, and when to squeeze. We don’t always fit in a box. So even though I did my best here to provide some sort of definition and guide, the best person to define your relationship is you and your partner. Just please treat each other’s hearts with care out there.