Well, to you it looks like laziness because you were blessed with a strong will. For better or worse, your worldview is through the lense of human nature’s version of a halo.

Things that are easy for people with strong wills are difficult for people with weaker wills…much in the same way that daily life and activities are easier for people who are physically stronger and more agile.

It’s hard to say just how much external forces or other people are to blame for the problems of people whose locus of control is almost completely external. If someone is truly unable to resist, then how much control do they truly have of their fate?

So long as they don’t or can’t accept personal responsibility, they will be carried by the winds. If they can accept some degree of it, but still lack a strong will or independence, their choices will still be limited to what they’re able to perceive.

If you try to show them other choices, only those who are at or above your level of independence will be able to see the reason in them. To those less willful, the other options will seem crazy…and they would be crazy for people who can’t bear the consequences that would come with those decisions.