Amen .well said .iam gping through the same situation .found out that my ex now was having an affair with an ugly man looking women who lives in his neighborhood .he used tell me .men look at women like we look at shoes u have the blaniks who we can wear to show them off and the flipflop that we wear to the bathroom .its not about looks or intelligence .is all about ego validation .and how easy she is and how nice she was lol .A YES WOMEN PRETTY MUCH .