Y, nobody was saying that it’s impossible for a Black woman to secure a non Black mate. What we’re saying is that White men are no escape from the realities of womanhood. We’re competing with non Black women even for Black men.

Also, one should be aware of the tendencies of men of other ethnicities with regards to interethnic dating. We always hear the success stories, but very few are willing to look for the horror stories.

It is not as simple as dating the guys who are interested in you. Some are interested for the wrong reasons, and others think they are stronger than they really are. In the long run, their resolve weakens and they get tired of getting looked down on or not having a woman all their friends want to, or will admit to wanting to shag.

It’s not that White men are a particularly bad choice, but that people in general, are sheep. Guys shag because of personal taste, but date and marry partly for social validation.

A non Black guy with a lot of street credibility in a machismo friendly field, is generally going to fare better in this than Jonny Cubicle. Black women should be aware of these things and not get butthurt over people telling them the truth.

We’re trying to help you expand your options, not say that you have no options. If you want a better chance of getting a decent man, Black, White, or Purple, you need to understand what the universal standards are.