It has come to light that the fact of Obsidian’s blog being taken out happening on the tail of the swirling discussion was just a matter of coincidence. The true culprit is a “repressed” writer who believes people shouldn’t be allowed to critique her articles: Bene Viera.
To get an idea of how petty she is, here’s the Google cached response to her article Dumb it Down. Apparently disagreement with an Essence writer is against WordPress’s terms of service now. More later.
Seems that after a series of posts and a debate on “swirl” (White male/Black female) interethnic dating, and why it’s usually either a bad option or not an option for Black women, Obsidian’s blog has been suspended. WordPress.com being a free service, reserves the right to delete or suspend at will, but I find it a little hypocritical, considering some of the other blogs they host.
Now y’all see why it’s worth it to pay for hosting elsewhere, and just use the software.
We have a lot of intense debates out here in the blogosphere. So far, it has managed to be not as chaotic and spammy as Usenet, but one of the few flavors of internet where people can have honest dialogue. Things get hot sometimes, but that’s how we like it. It’s kinda screwed up when someone gets butthurt and decides that since they don’t like what someone else has to say, they must be silenced altogether. There’s a kind of trust out here that so long as no personal infomation unavailable to the public is posted non consensually, and no slandering is done, people are welcome to differ in opinion. Anything too far below the belt can be moderated or deleted anyway.
I wonder how whoever complained about Obsidian figures they’ve silenced him. Why would they want to?
In my observation of the events that unfolded, it seems some women don’t like to be told that they’re ugly. Being told one is ugly means, to them, being told that they are wrong or somehow less worthy to exist or have a partner. In the west, where a certain look is the most important thing, it may be true that this is how most people think. May be…it is. Let’s be real.
In such an environment, where the neatly compartmentalized, feminine fat deposits, golden to chocolate skin, and brilliant cloud of curls that is the Black woman, is relegated to the fetish or freak tastes, such women will have limited options. Those options are going to be limited to those who are either of the same ethnicity, or those who are so domiant and/or independent of thought as to not give a crap what’s trendy.
It doesn’t matter that most men would shag a Black woman if given the chance. Most non Black men wouldn’t even think of committing to one of us. That’s just how it is. No matter how beautiful we are or how sweet, they won’t want us for more than a sperm deposit. In countries where they have less tact, they’ll explain it to you.
Add that to the amount of feminist koolade too many Black American women drink and then piss all over men, whether they deserve it or not. Most of us may not be raging harpies, but it works sort of like the radical Muslim minority. The harpies are a minority who are very loud and visible, and give the rest of us a bad name. We do not do enough to counter this stereotype, and keep the harpies among us in check. So people equate being Black and female with having a bad attitude or being so horridly leftist that they kind of join in the national bad attitude of over entitlement.
Some men who wouldn’t have a problem dating a Black woman because of ethnic nationalism, have a problem with the attitude.
Then, we have the absolutely atrocious style of dress way too many young, Black women have adopted: street corner chic.
Look, if you dress like a whore, guys are going to treat you that way, especially those who are outside your ethnicity.
Why is it a problem for someone to say this? Most Black American women are not competitive in a multicultural dating/marriage market.
Is it because he’s male and said it? Do tell.