You know, you’re right about one thing. I got you and Jasmin confused yesterday. I’ve been working like a demon the past couple of weeks, and one of the first things to go is differentiation between haters in my memory banks.

Excuses, excuses. You should have just kept it short with an apology.

Still, you took his concern for the issues too personally, and were in the okay-with-cyber-lynching cheering squad.

How is ignoring somebody because you feel that they are a waste of your time “taking something too personally”? I see you are drinking the same coolaid as Obsidian that leaves people with the erroneous assumption that everybody should have time for all sorts of BS. I think the real problem here may be that I value my time more than you think I should value it.

Personally, I didn’t care about the cyber-lynching squad. When you continue to provoke people and beg them for a reaction you lose the priviledge of crying victim when they turn and react to you.

Again, if you want to distinguish yourself, you should do that, and not claim to be clean when you were part of the problem.

I have no obligation to distinguish myself from people you claim to be haters of Obsidian. The burden of proof does not fall on me to prove I’m innocent but for you to prove I’m guilty. If you don’t agree with me on this then it’s because your a hater yourself.

Pro already explained to you what happened in clear, obvious language. I can’t understand why are having so much difficulty understanding what was a very simple situation.

That you’re being confused with unduly foul mouthed harpies ought to tell you something.

It does. It tells me haters are gonna hate and the ignorant don’t readily accept the truth, which, coincidentally, are two truisms I already knew.

I’m not a stick in the bum about cursing, but there’s a point.

That’s nice. But why are you telling that to me rather than someone who actually cursed at Obsidian?

Anyway, it could be telling you that I am exhausted, but it could also be telling you that you’re blending in too well with a gaggle of nasty crazy chicks.

I’m leaning towards laziness and an unwillingness to accept what is so obviously true–Obsidian brought the erasure of his WP blog onto himself.

Obsidian wasn’t referring to you just to try to get your attention. He was trying to teach you something about men and where you may have been going wrong in your search and/or attraction.

Obsidian was most definitely trying to get my attention. Furthermore, why I would I listen to anything a man has to say when he doesn’t even comprehend when someone finds him annoying and doesn’t want to be bothered with him? Why would I get advice about men from a man who–if he approached me–I would deem unworthy of my time? Why I take advice from a man about dating and attraction when I am already considered very attractive by most men but I am not currently in the market for a relationship–crucial details that the person giving out unsolicited advice knows but chooses to willfully ignore?

Nicole, you are are so confused about this entire situation it would be comical if it wasn’t tragic.

I’m starting to think this is what people who give a crap about women like your’s problems must be to go any further than, “Don’t let the door hit you where the good Lord split you.”

I’m starting to think ignorance must be bliss.

If you’re going to take a Black man caring about the women among his people getting into good, stable relationships as a sign of crazy, then you kinda don’t really deserve to get anything out of what he was posting, even if you were capable of grasping it.

Unfortunately for you and Obsidian in my world people who give out advice must actually be deemed qualified to give it and must also have their opinion solicited. Neither one of you seems qualified so I would definitely never ask.

I can say that my life is considerably less miserable since my confusion was cleared. Maybe someday you’ll experience that too.

This is called projection: you were miserable and probably still are so you think other people me be too. I’m tired alot, so the only thing you might be able to give me advice on is how to experience more sleep.