Hi. This article is one of the pegs on my wall of get the hell out.. NOW. However, there’s another board. I call call it the “there’s help” board. Not too many pegs there. But lots on the “get the hell out” board.
I’m married to someone who has referred to me several times as narcissistic. Not having much experience with such people, and trusting her word, I’ve often considered the possibility that she’s absolutely right.
At the same time, she gets angry, and has been verbally and physically violent with me for suggesting she try something different from what she was doing.
We have 2 kids together. I find it interesting to see how she has used the “for the kids” excuse many times for spending money.. especially on stuff they didn’t need.
Quick to point out all that she does, and subsequently that I don’t do… brings me into that “never enough” feel… as I start to avoid her even more.

Am I wrong? Is it possible that she’s not narcissistic? We’ve had arguments that also get physical on her part and forcibly keeping me involved. even if by incorrectly accusing me of wanting to go see my “lover” which for the initial 7 years of our marriage (before I moved out the second time) did not exist.

Please share your thoughts.

Thank you,
KOH