Note for Black Men: Leave the Gays Alone.

 In case some of you cis hetero Black men missed the memo through the whole Dave Chapelle thing, here is the very simple takeaway:

If you are not in the LGBTQIA+ community or adjacent, and are not personally being affected by any current laws or policies related to the community, please shut the FUCK up.

That’s all. Just shut up.

Just keep LGBTQIA+ name out your mouth.

Just leave it alone.

So you heard (most likely from some nazi pretending to be a concerned citizen) that there is a “Gay agenda” to make everybody homosexual and recruit children?

It’s a lie. Most of the child abuse comes from religious people. Anything you hear from nazis about sexuality and agendas is a lie. Gay people were in the concentration camps along with Jews and Africans, and if the right wing has their way, they will be again. There is no Gay agenda. There is a “white” supremacist agenda to weaponize whatever they can against us, and they will go against their own stated morality to screw us over, but that is the only interest they have in LGBTQIA+ people. And yes, I put the asexual in there because they use celibacy and virginity as an ideal against us too, yet they penalize people who opt out of sex because they don’t want any.

Because gender and sexuality are matters of hierarchy in western cultures, it has become necessary for the western LGBTQIA+ community to push back against being default second-class or expendable/free-to-murder. Their “agenda”, like Africans and Jews in the diaspora, is just to survive.

I can’t technically say for certain if you are actually “punching down” as a cis hetero or presumed due to classic masculinity level Black man if you say anything about LGBTQIA+ people. However, you should keep in mind that like you, these people are targets. “White” supremacists need to enforce gender norms (at least publicly, since historically they will try all kinds with slaves and the vulnerable because they’re considered non persons) to keep “white” women breeding. They also want to keep said breeders accessible to themselves but priced above what those they oppress could afford.

The whole system of “white” supremacy is a deep rabbit hole that honestly, you have enough on your plate to deal with as a Black man. They hate your masculinity. It doesn’t mean they would like your Gayness. They hate that too because it would be Black Gayness and all Blackness is something they want to kill or enslave.

As an aside that is not really your business, but I’ll humor you a bit, this is why I warn my Queer peers to make sure when they are decolonizing their minds, they let go of “white” gender and question the labels. We’ve had to make up new terms for what some of us are because the typical western labels don’t fit, and where they sometimes might fit, they don’t come with the pathology that is often associated with them. I’m tempted to go deeper, but see, it’s not your business. Not that you can’t read about it here or elsewhere if you’re interested. I’m just not spoonfeeding it to you in this article. Context.

Basically what I’m saying is that whether or not your intentions are hostile or friendly, the more you say, the higher the chances are that you’re going to repeat something a nazi has said. Unless you are extremely sensitive and extremely well studied on the topic of gender and gender in African cultures and western cultures, you’re going to repeat some misinformation. You might get away with that one or two times, but if you keep quoting people who hate LGBTQIA+ people, then said people are going to either think you hate them or that you don’t have your own mind.

Now, if you hate folks, that’s a problem and you can just stop reading and go fuck off now. I don’t give a fuck about you or your wellbeing if you hate me. In fact my site has subliminal curses embedded in the words and images that if you come here with hate for my people including if you’re harboring anti African gender ideas and have even the slightest intention of forcing that ideology on us, some spirits got something for you. If you find things are not going well for you after coming here then well, I said fuck off.

If you don’t hate LGBTQIA+ people though, then understand that this is even worse. If you’re a hater, that’s open warfare, but if you’re a simp for nazis, that ball-lessness just makes you pathetic. People might not tell you outright what their problem is with you because folks get tired, but think back on how many times you have used dogwhistles like “Gay agenda” and “kids at drag shows” and the like. The few times that something well intentioned crosses some lines is usually among “white” people in the context of “white” culture, which makes it not our business. If you have not been forced as a child to attend a drag show or forced to take your child to a drag show, then you don’t really have much to say that can add anything to the conversation.

If there is no law on the books in your state that says men must have sex with men and women must have sex with women, and in fact, there are laws on the books within the past couple decades that made homosexuality illegal, then you are parroting some murderously bigoted people who would use the same logic to determine Black people are taking away their jobs by not being slaves. Other people’s freedom doesn’t cost you anything. So you should stay out of their business unless you want to help them.

Now, you can do what you want. I’m just telling you what you sound like: an idiot mouthing off about stuff they know nothing about, or worse, a puppet for some people who would hang you from a tree if they had the chance.

Stop letting nazis teach you how to talk about gender.

If you’re not LGBTQIA+ or someone personally invested in the community, just shut up about it in general. The *only* exception is when you are talking specifically to Africans specifically about decolonizing and being cool with themselves. Even then your job as a cis hetero man is to help masculine and masculine variable people know what the requirements and standards for your society or family is. That’s it. Go do your job and stay in your lane and stay out of Gay folks trying to survive western capitalism’s business.



My pronouns are whatever you're comfortable with as long as you speak to me with respect. I'm an Afruikan and Iswa refugee living in Canaan. That's African American expat in Israel in Normalian. I build websites, make art, and assist people in exercising their spirituality. I'm also the king of an ile, Baalat Teva, a group of African spirituality adherents here. Feel free to contact me if you are in need of my services or just want to chat.

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