Very few sites answer this in an adequate way, so I thought I would give it a go.
First of all, I’d like to say that for those of us who are sexually primal, it isn’t a fetish. It’s more of a style. There is no object or specific behavior that makes one primal.
To be sexually primal means that one allows their “animalistic” or primal self out when sexually aroused or during sex. The normal constraints of civilized behavior are dropped, and one allows one’s self to be the intelligent ape that one is.
Sometimes it means that the sex act will resemble a wrestling match in which the stronger or more dominant subdues the weaker or more submissive. Sometimes it will be more playful. Sometimes it may get very dirty or painful. Sometimes it can be extremely gentle and almost non sexual or surpassing sexuality. One simply does what their “instincts” dictate.
Primal people often identify with one or more animals, and bring this to their bed or the bush. Some are lycan, and some gorilla, while others may be more ferret or sea creature-ish. Some are more caveman. It varies.
There is a primal “fetish” community in most accommodating BDSM sites or forums. There is quite a bit of crossover. Many however, are not into props such as handcuffs or whips. They’re more into hands, claws, teeth, and muscle, and of course the mind. We do use safewords and the language of soft and hard limits though.
Some form packs. Some keep it in a couple. Some swing, but the way primals swing can be a bit different than the average swingers. So if someone says they’re primal, you want to know who the alpha is, and what the limits are so things don’t get highly uncomfortable.
Yes, primal people usually like doing it outside in Nature or at least in natural settings. So if your lady is primal, definitely pack some blankets in your truck or SUV, or keep a tent in the trunk.
Biting, scratching, hard grabbing, hair pulling, spanking, and filthy talk, grunting, and screaming is common in primal sex. Because of the roughness, stuff can also happen like accidental elimination. One must be very cool with life. Keep a towel and baby wipes as well as alcohol handy.
What else can I say? Well, let me know. If you have any questions or something to say, or a personal experience you’d like to share, make a comment.
More Articles on Being Primal
On the variety of relationships among Primal folk. It’s not quite as simple as some would like to believe.
About leading the mating dance.
A general test of your kink that includes Primal tendencies. This one is a bit more thorough and detailed. You can see my results here: http://bdsmtest.org/r/6641433
That they call it “play” makes my eye twitch, but it is a kind of cute short introductory video.
Haus Mein Gott’s very raw posting about his primal side and how it is expressed. He also makes a good case for latex over leather in certain kinds of sexual expression and play.
Safe Primal Sex
As a sidenote, one of the toys I’ve found very useful even though we’re often not into too many props, is penis sheaths and sleeves. Normal condoms tend to get shredded and lost a lot in our world, and it can be very tempting not to use them at all, but safety is crucial, especially for those with multiple partners. I encourage Primal men to become very comfortable with sheaths and prosthetics for both fun and safety.
Just don’t go crazy with these things until you know what your partners are into. The best to start with is something smooth that forms around your natural shape. If she is into animal or were-animal fantasy, you might like things that will give you a different shape, nubs, etc. What you should keep a few of in your tacklebox though, is some regular penis sleeves.
You can put one on before you get started, and be good until the mating is over, or at least three times, as opposed to having to stop and change every time you ejaculate. When you’re done, they can just be washed out with soap and water, dried, and wrapped up for next time. They’ll last months with no worries of pregnancy or diseases.
For oral sex, dental dams are important, but they can be hard to find. Something that does the job even better because it doesn’t trigger any latex allergies is food grade silicone food wrap. They work wonderfully and can be cleaned, dried, and reused. They’re also very flexible and stretchy.
Be careful out there, and happy hunting! 🙂