Very few sites answer this in an adequate way, so I thought I would give it a go.
First of all, I’d like to say that for those of us who are sexually primal, it isn’t a fetish. It’s more of a style. There is no object or specific behavior that makes one primal.
To be sexually primal means that one allows their “animalistic” or primal self out when sexually aroused or during sex. The normal constraints of civilized behavior are dropped, and one allows one’s self to be the intelligent ape that one is.
Sometimes it means that the sex act will resemble a wrestling match in which the stronger or more dominant subdues the weaker or more submissive. Sometimes it will be more playful. Sometimes it may get very dirty or painful. Sometimes it can be extremely gentle and almost non sexual or surpassing sexuality. One simply does what their “instincts” dictate.
Primal people often identify with one or more animals, and bring this to their bed or the bush. Some are lycan, and some gorilla, while others may be more ferret or sea creature-ish. Some are more caveman. It varies.
There is a primal “fetish” community in most accomodating BDSM sites or forums. There is quite a bit of crossover. Many however, are not into props such as handcuffs or whips. They’re more into hands, claws, teeth, and muscle, and of course the mind. We do use safewords and the language of soft and hard limits though.
Some form packs. Some keep it in a couple. Some swing, but the way primals swing can be a bit different than the average swingers. So if someone says they’re primal, you want to know who the alpha is, and what the limits are so things don’t get highly uncomfortable.
Yes, primal people usually like doing it outside in Nature or at least in natural settings. So if your lady is primal, definitely pack some blankets in your truck or SUV, or keep a tent in the trunk.
Biting, scratching, hard grabbing, hair pulling, spanking, and filthy talk, grunting, and screaming is common in primal sex. Because of the roughness, stuff can also happen like accidental elimination. One must be very cool with life. Keep a towel and baby wipes as well as alcohol handy.
What else can I say? Well, let me know. If you have any questions or something to say, or a personal experience you’d like to share, make a comment.
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