Dating in Israel: How Not To Be Downgraded on Appearance

Before I begin, I’d like to give due credit to Diva for teaching me most of this. Without her, I’d still be wondering why men here assumed I was a fool and then were shocked when it became clear that I wasn’t.  This isn’t about pretending you are something that you are not.  It’s about…

This Will Not End Well: Men and Blocking

I figured something like this would happen eventually.  According to many of my female friends, men have started blocking women who tell them no or express any hesitation or simple disagreement, no matter how petty. This used to be the domain of women.  Women are kind of skittish especially in online dating and social media. …

The Walking Exes

I am writing this post so that I no longer need to converse with exes accumulated before I  realized that my health depended on not giving a shit about people who don’t give a shit about me. You only get one chance to hurt me by leaving.  Once you have played that card once, I…

Shit I’m Tired of Seeing: “White” Patriarchy

Slavery was not something that rich “white” men did by themselves without women, nor was Jim Crow the exclusive domain of men.  Just about all “white” supremacists and those complicit are raised to be this way by their mothers. Under the current racist system (which is racist against everybody, and just treats European Americans like…

Freedom of Speech On the Internet Is Not Threatened By Moderation

I’m an African American woman on the internet, and I don’t have a troll problem.  I don’t have keyboard wannabe psychos, perverts, or other brands of idiots plaguing me. I used to.  A long time ago, wasting time on Usenet, I picked up a couple of barnacles.  They used their freedom of speech to harass…

More Sex Talk from the Love Scientist – Facts So Romantic – Nautilus

There’s your temperament and your culture, your nurture, your environment. I’m an identical twin and we’re not exactly alike. No two people are alike. What’s really interesting, and the most important scientific thing in my lifetime, is an understanding of epigenetics. We are beginning to understand how the environment turns genes on and off and…