Goodbye is Goodbye

Another thing that became very clear to me after the last relationship is that, right or wrong, the first time a guy dumps me or does something I consider irredeemable (like threaten me or my loved ones), I start to hate him.  I may still love him in a way, but it is as if…

Field Test: Sustaining a Relationship With An Israeli Man

Diva suggested that to really understand where I am, I need to make a sincere attempt to sustain an actual relationship with an Israeli man.  So the next time I had the opportunity, I didn’t run away screaming or make the usual paranoid accusations while laughing in his face. I promised him that I wouldn’t…

The Black Dominatrix: Empowering or Not?

Sometimes things that seem empowering because “everyone” says they should be, turn out to be very disempowering. For a woman to dominate a man from time to time is natural, and when natural, empowering for them both.  The woman gets to act out her nature without hiding, and the man gets to admire a woman…